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"Couples, Married Folks & Life Partners" Terrific Feature Article
The Couple's Corner
This month, we bring to you another fabulous feature article for helping you both to enjoy each other and spending your time better together!
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Unleashing Loving Happiness
Life goes by so quickly and now we have just witnessed the ringing in of the new year. What year will this mark in the period of your loving relationship - under a year, first year, 5th, 10th, 25th, 50th or more? Love is like a fine wine which improves with age. The longer you are with your partner, the more intimate you become, the more you understand the other person and come to accept this person for his / her failures as well as triumphs! As the last of the holiday decoration boxes gets sorted and packed neatly away until the next season, it is wise to also sort out one's feelings concerning this loving mate. unlike the decorations, your mate will still be there with you during this new year. Your mate will be with you, we are assuming - OR are there some elements of your love not quite right? Much of your relationship is within your own control and you steer the course through your every action or inaction.
Let us not forget the words of warning that come every year before the holidays which talk about getting the stress out of the season and enjoying the festivities - ok, so maybe you didn't get a chance to read this and found the holidays a bit too much to bare. Now you are packing away stuff and grumbling about the extra work, your fatigue from it all and then there is that mate of yours who just HAS TO BE the source of the problems going through your mind. Hey, that's right - it's all her or his fault!!!! Please do yourself a huge favor. Think before you speak. These words were once told to this author by a college professor just prior to graduation and are now passed along to you. Before you put your proverbial foot in the mouth, take heed of what you are about to say and how well it has been thought out. Emotions do run high before, during and immediately following holidays and we just finished the grand finale so it it is no wonder that right about now you need some good R&R (rest and relaxation).
What marks relationships between life partners, married and other couples as ones that should last into the future is that ability to not be so quick to place the blame on the other person. If you take a few moments during your packing to think about last month and the month before and count the clock backwards to the first of last year, you will undoubtedly recall many instances of when your mate was there for you, doing something or saying something loving, making life easier, going over and above when least expected, surprising you or a child of yours with something sweet and the list goes on with last year's memories. Ask yourself honestly, "Without this person as my mate in my life, would I be happier?" For the vast majority of you, I hope you agree that perhaps your heart has been a bit unjustifiably hard. If you lean the other way and see little value in your mate, remember, a little love goes a long way. When was the last time you (yes, YOU) gave a hug, a kiss and a compliment to this lover of yours? Extend yourself one more time (and then one more time again and again).
Have you taken a close look at those decoration boxes? They are the mirror of your relationship with your mate. Have you carefully placed, arranged and decided what to put where - or quickly thrown things in a rush and effort to get through the task? Are you rushing to get through your relationship? Loving happiness comes from savoring the moments, having appreciation for all the little things that take place in your relationship each and every day and most importantly acknowledging to your mate that you have noticed.